[Asthmatic]

Thank you very much for that information. I had no idea.

I actually have felt a tightness in a spot above where my
left thigh meets my pelvis. I’ve always been curious to
ask what organ or whatever rests in that place. It’s about
4-5 inches down and to my left from my navel. Is that my
kidney? If I have a lot of sex, sometimes that spot hurts
from retaining semen.

However, the real pain of it all is as follows. If I don’t
retain semen, my body tingles like crazy, my neck itches,
and it’s very annoying. It gets worse the more I ejaculate.

If I retain semen, I feel tightness in that spot on my body,
but it isn’t nearly as annoying as the tingling. It rarely
ever gets painful. I’m guessing it is likely that I have
stagnation and too much heat as you said.

However, The disadvantages of not living in China or Taiwan
is that I do not have a chi doctor readily at my disposal.
I have yearned for a teacher or for guidance on these issues
for 2 years now, but these kind of people don’t exactly grow on trees.
I have e-mailed and gotten in contact with a few supposed
“teachers”, and they taught me next to nothing on how to fix
my problem, while costing a lot of money.

I would have no problem stopping my “novice” retention practices
if it weren’t for the annoying tingles. Any idea what it might
be? The tingling feeling of having little airbubbles under my skin?
Especially in the left side of my neck where my neck meets my shoulder?

Thank you for your help.

[Asthmatic]

I want to thank you all so very much for all of your advice. It is honestly and sincerely appreciated.

I think I defenitely do need to take a more holistic approach to this issue.

I finished a 4 month course taught by one of Michael Winn’s students about 8 months ago. I really liked the meditation and some of the breathing techniques, but other things I wasn’t fond of. I just felt silly doing all the animal movements. I really like doing most all of the exercises, but I just don’t like pretending to be an animal. Is it ok if I skip that part of the online training course?

I have been practicing the microcosmic orbit for years now, but I feel like I’m not improving at all, which is why I came to this board. Perhaps it’s just slow going and hard to see.

You are all right though, I need to learn more and practice more of the fundamentals. I’m very interested in doing that. I think it will be good for me.

I’m just the kind of person that tends to look at cause and effect. I see myself losing energy when I have sex, so I think that I need to learn something about sex in order to change that. I think this logic makes sense to me. I do not think that I am obsessed with sex. I think sex is a beautiful part of our lives, and is a gift to be enjoyed. I’m just concerned about my health. I think that if I can learn how to keep myself from losing sexual energy, I will be more healthy both physically and spiritually.

I will order the online courses, start from the basics and work my way up. Thank you all so very much for all your help. Know that you have all honestly and truely helped me a great deal. Thanks again. 🙂

[Asthmatic]

Thank you all for your help and advice.

Jernej, where would I go about finding said workshop or said proposed sequence of study? Thanks.

“You want to be a better partner in bed?
Do you feel exhausted after sex?
Is it the idea of spiritual enlightenment?”

All three of these are reasons I want to improve my control over my sexual energy. However, I have a long list of reasons why I want to do this.

It has nothing to do with the fact that I am embaressed to share why, but I don’t think anybody would believe me if I told them. I will go ahead and write why I want to improve my control over sexual energy, but I usually keep it to myself because most people think I am strange, looney, crazy, or a liar when I tell them.

2 or 3 years ago, after I started practicing Tai Chi, I began feeling what felt like electric current, warm water, or pleasent buzzing flowing through my body. I have no idea what this is, but I am labeling it “Chi”, because I don’t know how else to label it or how to describe it to other people.

At the same time I became aware of chi, I began feeling tingling all over my body, that felt like bugs crawling through my skin. It was a very itchy, annoying, , discomforting, and distasteful feeling and I wanted it to go away. I quickly realized a corrilation between ejaculation/sex and this distasteful feeling intensifying. I experimented with Celibacy for a long time, but in the end, I didn’t feel that it was healthy… So I began practicing sex without ejaculation. Though I do not ejactulate when having sex, I still lose chi and the negative feeling still intensifies, though not nearly as much as when I ejaculate.

If I don’t have sex, I feel the feeling of “Chi” getting stronger and stronger every day. It feels quite wonderful and I would love to develop my chi more. When I have sex, the feeling of chi diminishes and the negative sensations grow stronger.
I believe it has to do with the “chi” or energy in my body transforming into bodily fluids when I have sex. I would like to learn how to keep all my energy and not lose any so I can develop my chi.

I am spiritually curious about chi and have felt some amazing things at times when I had refrained from sex for a long time. I would like to venture in this territory and see how deep the rabbit hole goes. I believe it could lead me to a path of spiritual enlightenment. However, I am unable to do this because I am unable to figure out how to have sex without losing energy. I have been very interested in learning how to do this, but I have no teacher, no ideas or ways of finding a teacher, no idea how to practice or improve, and no idea how to achieve my goals. I am a student with a desire to learn, but with no idea how to go about doing it.

Please help me. Thank you.

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